Why I’ve Stopped Burning Bridges


As the end of the year approaches, we begin to reflect on the old and make plans for the new; perhaps a new diet plan, a new mind-set or even a new image. Oftentimes, we enter the new academic year with the desire to leave behind bad habits, bad diets and bad people! On our quest to success, we post phrases such as ‘No new friends’, ‘I prayed for God to protect me from my enemies and I started losing friends’ all over social media in an attempt to set the tone for the coming year.  In a society where ‘cutting people off’ has become a trend, I fear that this mentality may be beginning to infect the Church.

By ‘Church’, I do not mean the building you should go to on Sundays to worship God by learning from his word and singing songs of adoration on to him. I’m talking about the entire body of Christ, the community of the children of God; the citizens of Heaven. Why do we find it so easy to cut each other off? Why is it that when somebody has wronged us, our first reaction is to abandon them?

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Ephesians 4:32

I imagine that in the past year, some of you reading this has had an argument with somebody. Furthermore, not one of us can say that we did not play a part in that fall-out; that we were loving, forgiving and tender-hearted towards the individual (at all times). Odds are, even if the issue did not fully rest our shoulders, because of our imperfect nature, we failed to show the kind of love and grace that has been showed to us by God.

Over the past few days, I’ve spent time amending broken relationships; sending out apologies to those that I’ve wronged and letting those that have wronged me know that I’ve forgiven them. The peace granted by God whilst doing this has been so immense that I had no choice but to share it with you. So I implore you, instead of thinking about who to cut off next, or who is dispensable en route to your ‘success’, think about those that you’ve previously left behind. Think about the people who may be harnessing hatred towards you. Think of the people whom you’re harnessing hatred towards.

If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Romans 12:18

We know that not every relationship can be mended to the point of reconciliation but all Paul is asking in this verse is that you do your part. Day by day, we sin and fall short of the glory of God, yet through Christ, our perfect God forgives us and loves us. So who are we to hold grudges against those that have wronged us? Better yet, who are we to sin against another person and fail to take responsibility for it? So I plead with you, let us get rid of this ‘cutting people off’ culture and adopt a godly culture of love, forgiveness and reconciliation.

Thanks for reading,


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