Why I’ve Stopped Comparing Myself To People


God is teaching me a lot much about life, and so much about myself…daily, hourly and by the minute. No one but Him can say they know all there is to life, or that they know everything that will come in their own lifetime.  There are things I know today that I did not know or didn’t think applied to myself just a week ago! But thankfully I know now. One of these things is that…..

Comparison is draining. 

And I’m learning that gradually.

The thing is, I thought I knew this before, especially during my academic years. I knew that we were all individual students and we all had our subjects we would be good at and others wouldn’t. However, this isn’t a concept that should only be applied in academic cases, but one that is also relevant to all aspects of life. God is teaching me to stop comparing myself to others. Period.

We each have completely different lives and the way things work out for one person is not necessarily how it will happen for another. What someone has achieved by a certain age is not what everyone else should also have achieved by then!

We all have different walks, experiences, testimonies. God uses us in various ways which aren’t identical, but are  specific to our individual destinies.

Comparing ourselves to other people is an incredibly draining process and eventually steals our joy.

Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important they are! But they are only comparing themselves with each other, using themselves as the standard of measurement. How ignorant!

2 Corinthians 10:12
This is EXACTLY what the world does! It uses itself as the standard of measurement which leads us to think that we need to live according to a specific standard in terms of accomplishments; that by 21 we need to be a graduate, by 25 we should be well into our careers, engaged and living our first homes and by 30, married with 3 kids! But this isn’t the standard we need to go by, neither are the achievements of people anything to go by! We all have different lives and callings and nobody can tell us what we should have accomplished by a certain timeframe. But GOD!
  • Comparison is a thief of joy because it takes our eyes off of what God has for our lives and causes us to look at our faults and highlights everything we don’t have. We become discontent and joy and focus what we are lacking which opens doors for sadness.
  • Comparison can lead to competition; this is harmful because God requires us to move at our own individual pace. Being inspired by others is definitely a good thing and having goals set for yourself is also beneficial, but envying someone else’s life hardly brings any good.

God sees our lives on such a large scale – He sees it from beginning to end and there is an appointed time for everything. Don’t feel pressurised by what other people are doing or saying. If anything use other people’s lives as an inspiration for yourself. Never envy what someone else has or try to live up to a false timeline because the truth is, we don’t know how they feel about their lives; they may ‘have it all’ but still be deeply unhappy.

Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. (Galatians 6:4)



3 thoughts on “Why I’ve Stopped Comparing Myself To People”

  1. Thanks for sharing this piece of advice. It certainly spoke to me in many ways. May Christ continue to use you for His glory. Stay blessed

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