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Why I’ve Stopped Living In Denial

  
Have you ever woken up and realised that you’re not worn out because you didn’t get enough sleep, or because you’ve spent too many hours at the gym, but because your mind has been thinking of a thousand problems at once and each one remains unsolved?

This is how problems generally work in my life:

1. I realise problem ‘x’ exists 

2. I rack my brain to produce a plan a, scrap plan b, only to conclude plans l-m-n-o and p won’t work either

3. I think about giving ‘x’ to God to resolve but I haven’t touched base with him in so long I’m uncertain he’s able to make it better

4. I stress-well actually I secretly stress. I go on through life as normal and try and push problem x to the furthest point in my mind whilst my subconscious brain continues to think of solutions, and decide those solutions won’t work, so thinks of some more in a hopeless cycle 

5. I despair

6. I run back to Jesus. I don’t even care if he fixes things, I just want to be living under his wing, trusting that he’ll give me the strength to feel at peace in the midst of whatever storm has been raining on my parade.

Reading that, you’d wonder why I didn’t just run back to Jesus in the first place. Why try to figure things out on your own when you know you’re going to find your senses and come back to God in the end? There is a reason. Actually in fairness, there are many reasons, but they all begin with one…

I will tell you a secret. Not many people know what I’m about to share so brace yourself. I am quite proud. Not in the sense that I think I’m better than people, I’m just confident in my abilities to the extent that I rarely (every bone in my body fights against) ask for help. I might even think the person offering to help would do a better job than I could but I’m too proud to admit that, and the mere thought that I could do it myself even if it does take me twice as long, means all help is rejected and the thought of asking for it is ludicrous. I know what you’re thinking- 

“Even when the person your asking is God?!”
 Yes.

So this has been one of those weeks. I know I can’t possibly solve all the issues life has presented me with, but I hate to admit defeat so much, I have ran away, instead of toward the God that can make it all better. I’m not saying God is a wizard, he’s definitely not a genie in a bottle that grants all of your wishes, but he does give you the ability to overcome every kink and disruption to this journey of life. 

Today I admit defeat. I admit that I need God and that life is only worth living when it revolves around him. I haven’t the energy to keep running away so I’ll stop.

Cast your burdens unto Jesus for he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

When you give your problems to Jesus, it’s not that they immediately disappear and life returns to perfection, but that weight from constantly trying to find a solution is lifted, along with all of the stress it brought. Nobody said being a Christian would be a breeze, but Jesus said my yoke is easy and my burden is light

If you, like me, woke up realising you had been trying to fight a war all by yourself, take the best advice you’ll ever get. Give all  your worries to Jesus, who cares for you and wants you to be free. The stress just isn’t worth it.

Love y’all 
Dani xx

Why We All Hate Interviews

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Interviews are the GCSE exams of adult life. Funnily enough I quite enjoy exams, and yet this week (which has felt like interview galore) made me realise I don’t hugely enjoy being interviewed. It’s not so much the awkward trying-to-figure-out-the-appropriate-strength-to-clench-someone’s-hand with, at the beginning as the; sitting across from people and having no real idea what they’re thinking, that makes me squirm. Then it’s the wait to find out how well you performed to make matters worse…

Every phone call makes you jump.

Every email makes your heart race.

You spend all day bracing yourself for the worst and wishing you could escape this stage of the process.

I guess this is why a lot of people hate interviews, and probably why many Earthlings, hate exams. We’re all very aware that they’re a necessary evil to progressing in life, the mandatory hoop that we all have to jump through, and yet sometimes we feel that the bar is set so high and that we’re never ever going to succeed, that we don’t even try.

Problematic?

Definitely.

If we are so afraid of failure that we don’t endeavour to pass, how will we ever get to the destinations we desire?

The consequences worsen once we start to look at our walks with Christ as one long test and our faithful God becomes the quizmaster. Yes, one day God will judge us (James 4:12), there’s no secret that we are supposed to obey the rules God has put in place for us (John 14:15), but that doesn’t give us a reason to put our journeys with God in the ‘passing a test’ category. Could it be that some of us don’t even try with God because we are so sure we aren’t going to ‘perform well’ in the test of life, we give up trying to ‘live right’ and accept the distance we feel from God as ‘our lot’ in life?

The difference between a life long interview and our walk with God is that God isn’t sitting across the table from us, marking us on what we say/do, God is sitting right next to us whispering all the answers in our ears. Having an open book test is never going to be as scary as going into the exam hall knowing everything depends on how much you can remember. God wants you to succeed in this race, he walks with you every step of the way because he cares that you get to the very spot that he destined you to arrive at.

Don’t give up on God because you feel it’s not worth the effort. No matter how many times you feel like you’ve flopped and the interview has turned sour, remember that God will never leave you nor forsake you.

Be strong and courageous! Do not fear or tremble before them, for the Lord your God is the one who is going with you. He will not fail you or abandon you!” Deuteronomy 31:6

Remember the prodigal son: our father’s arms are always open awaiting our return.

Love ya like cake and ice cream!

Dani xx

How To Find Your Way To The Promised Land Of Peace

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Psalm 29:11

The Lord gives strength to his people and blesses his people with peace. 

Psalm 34:14

Turn from evil and do good seek peace and pursue it

Psalm 37:37

Consider the blameless, observe the upright, a future awaits those who seek peace 

Sometimes we look at life and all we can see is all types of crazy. You know when you feel like you’re rushing around but nothing seems to get done, and you’re telling God to order your steps but you’ve been walking around for ages and now you can’t even tell if you’ve been moving forward. It’s not always as bad as one step forward, two steps back, but sometimes it’s one step, for..or was it back.. no maybe it was sideways, that gets you feeling dizzy. Things need to happen but you don’t know ‘what first?’ And even if you figure that out, you’re then met with ‘what next?’

So you can picture it, you’re stressed and to make matters worse all your friends keep telling you is; ‘take deep breaths,’ or, ‘sleep on it,’ or, ‘tomorrow will be better than today.’ And you nod and you smile all the while thinking: why? Why will it be better? What’s going to make tomorrow glorious when today has just been abysmal?!

We serve a God who calls himself the Prince of Peace. Now if you’re #Team-Jesus that makes you his child, so you may not be a prince or princess of peace but you’re at least in the royal lineage of the peace family. Psalm 29:11 says that The Lord gives strength to his people and blesses them with peace. Simple addition tells us that you’re not only in the royal peace family, but God has given his word that you’re blessed with peace. At this point you’ve really got to take two seconds out to think…all this peace related ish, and yet all I can feel is the stress of the storm. Where is my peace at?!?!

We easily get caught up in all the good things God is saying he’s going to do for us and forget what part we’re supposed to be playing. Both Psalm 34 and Psalm 37 tell us to seek peace. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news for all my fellow #Team-wishing-we-weren’t-so-lazy, but receiving this peace really requires an action. It’s no mistake that both versus say we should do good and not evil and consider the upright (those living the right way), before telling us to seek peace.

How can we calm down the crazy?…by acting sane. And not in that earthly ‘seems like the right thing to do,’ way. Act in a way that shows you have some God-sanity. Cut out the sin.You claim to be insane about Christ but your actions would give all the angels an excuse to give you side-eye and say ‘you know [insert name] be acting cray these days.’

The good thing about sanity is that it’s simple. It makes sense to revise before you take an exam. It makes sense to pray before you start your day. Sometimes the whole ‘what would Jesus do?’ sounds a bit daunting, but how about, what would you do if you could see Jesus watching out of the corner of your eye. I don’t need to break it to you that God watches your every move, not because he’s bored of preeing the rest of the population but because it’s part of the package of him dwelling on the inside of you.

If you want peace you’re going up have to go looking. Insane for God=acting with God-sanity. Just living right can cause your stresses to melt away. You know the good thing about God…ask and it shall be given unto you, seek and ye shall find. Amen.

Love Dani xxx