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Do You Know Why You’re Alive?


We are a generation enslaved to routines, traditions and culture. We are so caught up in living our lives according to the rules and regulations endorsed by the success of others. We love easy formulas that will guarantee some attainment if we ‘just stick to the plan and follow through’, but life does not work that way. Life expects you to know what is propelling you forward, what is keeping you sane, what is enhancing your journey and what is giving you hope for a future. I very frequently ensure that this is kept at the forefront of my mind to ensure that I am adhering to and fulfilling my purpose, and not his or hers.

If purpose is the reason for which something is done, created or for which something exists then it is important for us to know what ours is. You are probably expecting me to provide you with a step-by-step approach to finding your purpose, or tell you how I found mine. But the truth of the matter is: your purpose is embedded in the reason you get out of bed every morning. I cannot tell you what that is, or what it should be, however whatever it is must not only motivate you, but challenge your intentions.

Purpose should inform all of your life decisions: what you study, where you choose to live, who you stay connected with and even what you do with many of your holidays and weekends. It should demonstrate what is important and what is not. However, realistically most of us are completely clueless when it comes to what we want to do with our lives, who we want to be and where we want to be. Even after we finish school, university or after getting a job and making money, some of us still do not know what our life’s purpose is.

Stop thinking that it is an issue, because it is not. It will become clearer as the days, weeks, months and years pass.

We exist for an undetermined period of time. During that time, we do important and unimportant things. The important things give our lives meaning, whilst the unimportant things literally just kill time that we will never get back. What are we wasting our time doing? So many of us find ourselves doing the things we are just merely good at, just because we can. However, we need to stop deceiving ourselves and selling ourselves short by indulging in the things we were not created to be doing. You can sing? That doesn’t mean you need to become a singer. You can draw? That doesn’t mean you were created to become an artist. You can do make up? That doesn’t mean you must become an MUA. God has planted in us so many gifts and talents, but we need to hone into the ones that add value, and focus on that. Before aspiring to become a Journalist, I once wanted to become a Solicitor. Sometimes we need to understand who we are not, before we can truly grasp who we are and what we are supposed to be doing. I am not saying that I have got it all figured out, I am still learning about my purpose, and the necessary sacrifices I need to fulfil it.

What do people come to you for?

In order to find your purpose, ask yourself the above question. Your purpose is validated by the feeling of complete peace and joy. Dig deeper, let God direct you and search within. To find your purpose is to be free at last, but if we do not know what we are looking for, we will never find it.

Love Yolanthe xx


Why I Stopped Trusting Men


It makes you sick when you see people lie and steal and cheat their way into getting what they want in life. We’re told that it’s dog-eat- dog world but the last time I checked, no-one was barking and cannibalism was still frowned upon. FYI we are not dogs and there is no reason to behave as though we are. Is it true that we’ve got to sell each other down the river just so we can get a little further along the stream? It’s like life is one big competition and it’s not enough for a person to win, they have to see you lose. I guess I should put a disclaimer out now, when I say I’ve stopped trusting men, I’m referring to the genderless man: I have absolutely no trust/faith/belief in mankind (myself included).

I guess it would be interesting to hear about how this one guy broke my heart and how that has put me off all men, but we have bigger things to worry about than my love-life (which is non-existent just in case you were wondering! Jesus is my main squeeze, my side dish and my dessert- for all who were just about to begin a Facebook search to find out about my imaginary mystery men). What really scares me is that we’re living on a planet thriving with Judas Iscariots waiting to sell out their ‘bestie’ and ‘ride or die’ for less than 30p let alone 30 pieces of silver. It’s crazy because we’re all running individual races and yet people are still misguided into thinking that knotting other people’s shoe laces so that they stumble, will help them get ahead.

Newsflash: you won’t win your race because I have lost mine. We aren’t in constant competition. It brings me no pleasure to see you fail, and my success doesn’t make you any more or less of a failure.

The one thing I can remember from P.E (apart from Hockey is really difficult and Rounders isn’t fun unless you’re batting) is that during a race, you have to keep your eyes focused on the finish line. The speed of your neighbour isn’t of concern to you, the ground that you can cover is most important. What’s worrying is that we’ve become so focused on our individual races that we think our lives should revolve solely around pleasing ourselves. Every day on twitter it’s; “do what makes you happy” and “cut out the people who don’t bring you joy,” but what about loving your enemy and helping out those who hate you? We have switched focus from, obeying what God tells us to do, to, focusing on leading a life that brings us ultimate pleasure. What if Jesus had lived by that mantra? What if Jesus hadn’t put his desire to fulfil the will of God above his desire to please his flesh?

While I was reflecting during Easter weekend, I just had to give glory back to God. Jesus was sent to Earth, with a mission and a really important one at that. Jesus was tasked with taking on the sins of the world and offering himself as a sacrifice on behalf of all of us so that we’d have the opportunity to fellowship with him; it would have been catastrophic if he failed.

So often we’re given huge tasks from God, tasks that our bigger than ourselves, and when push comes to shove and it gets painful and the future becomes daunting and we ask God if the cup can pass us over.  Unfortunately some of us fail to emulate Jesus and put God’s will before our own; instead we withdraw into a quiet corner and tell ourselves we wouldn’t have succeeded anyway.

God doesn’t call us to specific tasks because we have great C.Vs  and impressive skill sets, he is giving us the privilege of being a small piece in the masterpiece he’s already created the blueprint for. Being used by God is such an honour and yet we’re so at peace with routinely letting God down, consequentially forgetting about the people that we’re inadvertently letting down by not following through. I don’t trust people because people are fickle. They’re like Judas; with you one minute, and selling you out the next. Promising they will be there one minute, and bailing on you the next.

I’m so grateful that I can put my trust in the only man that’s never let me down. He said he was going to give up his life for the Earth and he came through. He said that he was going to forgive my sins and everyday he comes through. He said that he was going to surround me with his love and everyday he fills my heart with it. He said that he was going to never leave me or forsake me and there’s not a moment when I don’t feel his presence. He said that he was going to wipe away my tears and when I’m weary he gives me rest. He said that he was going to use me to do great things and here I am writing this post.

I serve a God who is so much bigger than me, for who words aren’t enough to capture his unfailing love. I trust God because he said he’d do it and he did it, and if there was take-two, he would do it again.

Psalm 146:3-5

Do not put trust in princes, or in human beings, who cannot deliver. Their life’s breath departs, they return to the ground; on that day their plans die. How blessed is the one whose helper is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord his God.

Love ya plenty

Dani xxx