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The Day I Discovered The Mary/Martha Syndrome 


The nature of society celebrates the imbalance and unequal distribution of wealth in this country. It usually oozes hierarchical discrimination and misconduct, when observing how alienated and neglected some people are. Very recently, I too have seen areas of my life become unequally yoked, imbalanced and neglected. 

We have always been told that it is better to give than to receive, we are also encouraged to give our best efforts when serving others, but what if giving has become a distasteful chore? Often, we give so much of ourselves; we become the backbone and shoulder for others, that we forget to leave ourselves with anything but exhaustion, which leads to us putting our relationship with God on the back burner. 

In a world jam-packed with distractions, the story of Mary and Martha (Luke 10:38-42) can help us set our life in order. Are you a Mary or Martha? You cannot be both. Mary and Martha both served and worshipped, however only one of them went about it the right way. Although Martha depicted herself to be practical and efficient, she was so consumed with getting things done, worrying about tomorrow and overlooking His word. Just like many of us Martha decided (made a choice) to work hard, but she forgot to work smart too. Working smart requires us to prioritise, sit at the feet of Jesus and make use of the 80/20 rule, just like Mary did. 80 percent of our outcomes come from 20 percent of our inputs. Certain things we do account for the majority of our happiness and output. Pareto’s principle should serve as our daily reminder to focus 80 percent of our time and energy on the 20 percent on what is really important.

It is illuminating to contrast Mary’s reverence with Martha’s demeanour. Mary made a conscious decision to sit at the feet of Jesus; this is something I need to do more of to ensure I am resting, recuperating, and being restored by the One who loves me despite all my flaws. How can we say we love God if we are constantly being reminded to spend time with Him? Please do not take my words as a reminder, but a nudge. 

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

Jesus commended Mary for concentrating on substance instead of formalities. Mary chose the good part, the holy words, truth, wisdom and faith of Jesus Christ, which will never be taken from her. Let’s acquire the Mary syndrome; a desire for God’s truth above everything else. I am a Martha who is working towards becoming a Mary, feel free to join me. 

 Love Yolanthe x