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5 Fears You’re Probably Facing

   
I woke up this morning and was going to write about the five things I’m currently grateful for, but seeing as I’ve spent the last week feeling more fearful than thankful, I thought that might be a little unrepresentative of the truth. I often get told off by friends and family for making everything seem like it’s going swimmingly well when really I’m onboard a ship that feels more like it’s sinking than sailing. As Christians we hang onto the scripture: 

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”‭‭II Timothy‬ ‭1:7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

But that doesn’t mean all of our problems immediately melt away, so here are five of my fears, from the littlest to the largest of problems.

1. My phone battery dying

Don’t laugh, I know you worry too. I think this is the most prevalent fear I have, and there doesn’t seem much I can do about it. I live in one of those awkward locations that doesn’t have a tube station but three semi close national rail train stations with semi-regular buses that I can get home from. Because of this, every journey home is made in sync with whatever live travel app is telling me makes sense. A journey home with a battery under 20% is never enjoyable as I sit on airplane mode praying it makes it home.
If this is you too, we both have to face facts. Taking a little longer to get home because you couldn’t use the bus app to decide which stop you need to get off the train at is not the biggest issue in the world. Sometimes you have to ask yourself, is it worth the worry? Most times the answer is no, in which case you can exhale

2. That the hidden calories in all my food will one day come and bite me on the abs, legs, and everywhere else I am trying to loose weight.

I want to tell you that this is a silly fear and the chances are, an extra banana won’t make you fat, but I think it’s more important to know that being fatter than you’d like is not the end of the world. There’s a hard truth that we should all just accept and that is: you will probably never be 100% happy with your body. 

Sorry for the tough love, on a happier note, God made you in his image, God said you’re fearfully and wonderfully made, God’s opinion trumps societies image of beauty. Simples. 

3. That I’m not really good at the short list of things I think I am

Every time I come to write a blog post, a small knot forms in my stomach and it doesn’t unravel until I’ve clicked share and decided that there’s nothing more I can do to make it better. It’s not just writing though, every time I have to challenge myself to meet my own expectations and am under the scrutiny of others my forehead starts to sweat and my hands get clammy. The usual thoughts are:

What if I’m not good enough?

What if I fail?

What will people think?

I’m not going to lie and say you’ll be brilliant at all things you put your mind to but I have relaxed in accepting that I may not be able to do things in my own strength but in Christ I can do all things. Yes, that means I’m completely dependent on God, and I am learning to be cool with that.

4. That I’ll never have the lifestyle I’ve always dreamed of

There was an article in the Evening Standard that said graduates from my university were the highest paid in the UK and after 10 years, 10% of us earn 100k. Going to a university where everyone wants to be an investment banker/ corporate lawyer that figure is not a surprise, it has however added another stress to the thought ‘where will I be in 10 years time and what will I earn…’ It’s very easy to say that we’re not money motivated people and that we’re driven by less materialistic ambitions, but at the end of the day, the seniority we’ve been able to reach and the pay package that comes along with that will always be a point of comparison. 

So what to do?

Sorry to say but having money is quite similar to having a great body. You will set goals and reach them, but you will always want something outside of your budget and you will always want more money to meet all of your needs. That doesn’t mean stop striving because you’ll never be happy, but let the desire to achieve financially fall into place with a tameable level of importance. Learning to be satisfied with being dissatisfied works the best here.

5. That my looming wedding won’t be Vogue worthy

When you go to weddings you internalise all the things you think were nice and everything that wasn’t no nice and vow to learn from the couples mistakes. Then, when it’s time for your own wedding you create a fantastical vision of what you want it to be like before taking into consideration that you don’t have celebrity money and your parents and in-laws will weigh in with their opinion and expect to be heard. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I want extravagance to the nth degree, I’m just chasing after a wedding that’s close to the vision my imagination has conjured up, and as everyone who has been married will tell you, weddings are pricey. I am so used to being self-sufficient that having to trust God to provide the funds has made me uncomfortable, and hence the battle to combat fearfulness with being faithful commences.

For everyone who is also wondering where the money is going to come from to pay off their next big expense, there is a scripture we can find peace in:

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3:5-6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

God’s got a plan, even if you are yet to think of one. Don’t rely on yourself one iota, but trust in him wholly and he will give you the direction you need, bring you into contact with the right people, open up the doors for your needs to be met.

We are so keen to share what we are grateful for, we create an imbalanced picture of greener grass and happier days to the onlookers of our lives. I hope that you’ll be encouraged to shout your fears as well as showcase your faith and that together we can encourage each other through our storms.

Happy Friday!

Dani

Top Tips For 2016

  

Sometimes you have to ask yourself…

Why are you so focused on the future? Why won’t you let God be the orchestrator of your life? Why won’t you let Him hold your hand, to guide you? Why do you pick and choose when to trust in Him? He needs your trust. He needs you to let Him be God in your life.

Trusting someone is a decision. If we actually started to seek God in all we do (Matthew 6:33), life would be a tad easier. We need to start giving God room to rebuild, move and declutter our hearts and minds. If we become rigid, there will be no room to change, anything.

God finalises all the plans you have or choose to make. He gives them a backbone, purpose and depth. He makes them come true.

Staying in the warmth of His embrace requires us to remain focused and hungry. We need to dwell in His presence more in order to become more familiar with who God says we are, and what God wants us to do. Why do we find it so difficult to see ourselves the way God sees us?

You have been equipped with strength, use it. You have been equipped with wisdom, use it.

Who is your first call for help? Only God can embody the emptiness, fill the void and heal the broken hearted. Only God can quench your thirst.

Walk with Him. Let Him in. Let Him help you. Rest in Him. Stop doing life without your creator.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and don’t depend on your own understanding. Remember the LORD in all you do, and He will give you success. Don’t depend on your own wisdom…Proverbs 3:5-7

Stay transfixed on what is urgent and important. If we depend on God in every part of your life, He will guide, protect, and comfort you. Surrender to His glory, for your glory.

I haven’t got much else to say. I am at a place where I’m talking less, and listening more. I’ve just shared all the lessons I have been learning over the last few months, I hope you can make the most of the new year we are about to be blessed with.

Love lots,

Yolanthe

I’d Rather Die Poor Than Live My Life Without You.

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Have you ever looked at celebrities or watched Made in Chelsea and wondered what it would feel like to have lots of money. Not necessarily to earn it, but to check your account and see enough money to buy flashy cars, houses, and bags that cost thousands, all in one day if you felt like it. Forget the work life imbalance that comes with most careers that will make you ‘rich’ and just imagine being knee deep in wealth and long haul all inclusive holidays with occasional trips to the moon. Ok I’ve taken it too far with the moon but you get my point. As a child I used to day dream of my life with added grandeur to the point where I thought the royal family would knock on my door, thank my parents for looking after me, but insist I live the rest of my life in the palace as a princess. (You can tell I liked to dream big).

Inevitably I got older. The people I idolised didn’t seem happy. Celebrities were going in an out of rehab and millionaires were diagnosed with depression. I arrived at the logical conclusion that we all preach and secretly don’t believe:

Money doesn’t make you happy

We have to create a new aim so we swap the desire to be rich with the desire to be comfortable. We stop thinking about having the kind of money to drive lamboguini’s and own mansions in every country that we like to holiday in, and start thinking about a stable job that pays enough to buy a house big enough for our immediate family. We can’t live in designer items but we can pay for music lessons and sports clubs and yearly family holidays. Well and truly comfortable.

You do realise that we’ve just remixed a statement we just rejected?

Enough money makes you happy

Is that really what we want as our mantra? When does enough become enough? I plan my career around this medium sized house and dance lessons for the kids, and being able to afford Disney Land, but where do I draw the line with enough? Of course I’ll end up wanting more as I earn more, but if we’ve already dismissed that having money makes you happy then who says I’ll feel any better living the life of comfortable?

Better to have little, with fear for the LORD, than to have great treasure and inner turmoil. (‭Proverbs‬ ‭15‬:‭16‬ NLT)

Everything clicked. I could continue focusing all my energy on earning more and more money with the far-off end goal of achieving happiness, or I could refocus my mind on my relationship with Christ.

I’m not saying don’t pursue a well paid career in any way shape or form,in fact I’m a big believer in ambition. Just make sure you have your priorities in check. We won’t ever earn enough that we won’t have to trust God to get us through life.

If money won’t make you happy you might as well ditch that rat race mindset for pursuit of the God that can.

Love you like warm chocolate brownies and ice cream

DC xxxx